If a man has gone MIA waiting for a man, waiting by the phone, waiting for him to schedule dates or stepping up in the relationship…well, it doesn’t feel very good.
So then why do we do it?
Mostly, we just don’t realize we have a choice.
Not only do we have a choice, we have a much better option…an option that honors us while positioning us to get the love that we want.
For us, let’s check in with our body to see how it feels when we wait around…for me, I feel this heaviness around my head, like a halo of heaviness.
It feels awful so I don’t do it anymore, now that I know better.
When we wait around for a man, he can feel it.
He can feel it from a distance and it feels like pressure to him.
Pressure makes a man want to run in the other direction.
You could be in China and he would feel it.
So, you can see how counter-productive waiting around is.
What is the answer?
You Need a Plan
My question to you is WHY do you have all this time on your hands that you even have to spare to do this activity of pining and waiting?
For one, THIS IS YOUR LIFE.
These moments, this is it. This not a dress rehearsal.
“What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ~ Mary Oliver.
Let’s look at this from another angle.
How would you feel if you knew a man was just waiting around for you, nothing else going on and when you finally connect with him he had this vibe of desperation like his life stopped until he talked to you or saw you again?
You know, that like puppy dog guy that despite you telling him you’re not interested he keeps bugging you or just can’t take a hint?
I KNOW that is not what you want to turn into for the man you are interested in.
So, is your guy interesting to you?
Men want the same thing.
They do not want to feel like you have nothing better to do than sit around pining for them.
If a man is not consistently coming toward you, all on his own, is that what you want?
Ask yourself this and look objectively at his engagement and consistency or lack thereof with you.
If so, are you keeping your options open?
If he is not showing you that he is pursuing a relationship with you directly you MUST keep your options open until a man that feels good to you steps up to the plate.
This is an Opportunity For You
This is a symptom of your outward focus and it’s time to come home to yourself and get on track with YOU.
Live your life fully, make plans, do things, date other men, nurture your friendships.
Don’t be surprised that as you do this he perks up and takes notice!
A woman living her life fully is very attractive to men. All men.
But, you are doing this for YOU because this is your life!
YOU are a Goddess so let’s really step into our Goddess nature.
Don’t waste it sitting around pining, waiting, hoping and wishing.
It will backfire on you every time.
Get out there and live!
Do something fun and interesting.
Upgrade your career.
Take up a new hobby.
That way, one way or the other, you get what you want and deserve and not hinging your hopes on one guy.
This is your one wild and precious life.
What are you gonna do with it?
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