I recently had a client who was in a real bad spot with her man…and in deep pain.
She was in treatment for breast cancer and getting ready to have a lumpectomy.
He was nowhere to be found and she felt abandoned and alone.
If anyone was driven to feel hopeless…It was her.
(She’s still my client and just shared about this on my wall last week, you can go see it https://bit.ly/2MjkcPF )
You see, not only did it seems like she had screwed up big time with her man and was losing him…
If you’re suffering from rehashing an argument or misunderstanding with your man and it’s driving you crazy…and he’s become distant…
You just can’t stop thinking about it…
“I should have done this…”
“I shouldn’t have said this…”
“I’ve ruined everything…”
What if…what happened was supposed to happen?What if…you BOTH needed to learn a lesson that this situation is presenting and this is actually an opportunity?
In her case, whatever the reason for his distance and lack of support during this painful time – there is no excuse.
With my support, she gathered up her courage and walked away.
When you reflect back on your life I’m sure you can remember times when a situation that seemed hopeless or confusing ended up showing you something you needed to take the next step in your life that ended up illuminating your path.
This situation is no different!
You may be thinking, “But, my matter is urgent! I don’t want to lose him.”
This sense of urgency is what is tripping you up.
He should be afraid of losing YOU because YOU are always the prize.
Here are 3 steps to relieve and release this urgency that is blocking the evolution that is trying to emerge through this conundrum:
1) Realize that space is always a good thing…and that men need space to process their feelings…very different way than women.
Know that time – is a psychological construct.
You are actually creating the experience of urgency with this “time apart” by your resistance to the space which gives the illusion you are apart.
But, this is impossible since once you are connected through the feeling level you are connected on an energetic level.
So, lean back.
The way to understand and break through to timelessness is to engage in an activity that puts you in a state where you lose all concept of time, in a flow state.
These activities are known as Vitally Absorbing Creative Activities. Painting, drawing, painting music, running, and my favorite, taking a road trip or plane trip to change your environment.
2) Revisit your dreams and goals that have nothing to do with this relationship.
Pick something that excites you or maybe even scares you a little! Make a commitment to begin baby steps toward this objective and get into it!
3) Do something for someone else. Serve others. Ruminating about your situations is what makes them into problems and keeps you stuck.
It also repels the man since you are energetically connected he will feel pressure from you.
As you serve others, you will get a sense of fluidity in how life works.
It will allow you to let go and cultivate a sense of gratitude.
With these three tools at your disposal you can’t go wrong!
Welcome to Earth School.
The truth is that we are all learning and growing through every circumstance.
As far as my client, we turned her situation around in less than four weeks and now he is the attentive, loving man that he was in the beginning.
He is supporting her through her cancer treatments and wouldn’t dream of leaving her feeling alone.
But, through our work together she truly was going to be fine, no matter what…and this is the key.
Men crave the growth that comes only through relationship with women…and that can only happen if we are committed to our own evolution no matter what!
As a side benefit (but not as the sole reason to do anything!) men are wildly attracted to women who live in joy, wild and free and experiencing their potential.
He will feel it from a distance and begin to get curious about you…I know you can do this!
So, dust yourself off, get back to living and…
Please share this with someone you know that needs to read these words. Like I said, serve others.
P.S. I hope you can now feel how shifting your perspective has the power to shift your whole reality with your man and fix your problem. If you would like to experience more joy and bring him close I can help you have what you want. Message me with your problem and I’ll respond personally with advice for your unique situation.