If you want a successful relationship with a masculine energy man you must realize and accept that his ways of being are different than yours.
The great news is that working with masculine energy instead of against it gives us exactly what we want!
A man that we are insanely attracted to.
Why would we NOT do what works with a masculine energy man?
Merely because we have been trained to be in action all the time in our lives…in our own masculine energy in our careers, raising kids and running households and we don’t even realize that we are accidentally doing it with our man.
So, here are the principles that you can follow to turn all that around and experience the happiness with the man that you want:
- Figure out exactly what you want with a man.
This may sound weird or unnecessary but it is very important. So many times we think we know what we want only to then do the opposite of what works!
Then we wonder why things don’t work out…because we didn’t take the time to get clear on our relationship vision.
Think back to your previous relationships and first get clear on what you don’t want to repeat again. Ever.
Then, use this list to flip to the opposites. As you create this vision on you will naturally start to free associate to fresh and new things and qualities you now want in a relationship.
2) Make a commitment to completely give up control.
If what you want is love and romance then trying to move things along with any of your ideas on how they should go will not get you what you want!
How you do this is by leaning back.
Make a commitment to yourself and make a rule for yourself that in this relationship you are going full girl.
3) Instead of trying to lead or guide things learn to find your feelings and express them.
Check in with yourself often and keep track on how you feel about things as you go about your day.
This is crucial to knowing how you feel so you can express that as you lean back.
This is the magic combination.
Practice expressing your feelings with everyone.
As you go throughout your day you know what you want and don’t want based on how you feel.
Likewise, the only way that a man is going to know what you want, and men do want to know how we feel about things because they want to make us happy, is if we get very good at knowing what we feeling and expressing it while taking ownership of it.
4) Show respect and appreciation for your man.
When asked, masculine men say that they prioritize being respected over being loved!
So, you can see what a big deal it is to them.
Specific ways to show respect are
- No means no – when he says no accept it…for now. Sometimes things can always be renegotiated but it is a huge sign of respect to say “OK” to a no right in the moment – and mean it. Remember, things are always in a state of flux so there is no reason to grasp on to anything happening in the moment that we wish were different.
- Do not ever try to nicey, nicey convince him to do something you think he should do or you want him to do.
It will backfire every time.
It’s entirely unnecessary if you are leaning back, expressing feelings and accepting where he is at in the moment. Acceptance actually feels very good so with some practice you will find yourself in more calm and at ease.
5) Have your own life! Do not ever have your focus on this man as the center of your world. It works the other way around. You must turn your focus always on yourself and your own life. This keeps you centered, balanced and happy. A happy woman is an attractive woman.
6) Commit to bringing your heart and love to each present moment you share with him. This can be very scary if you are not used to real love. But, this is what real love is.
One beautiful way is to share how you feel poetically. This is a direct line to a man’s heart.
Start doing this by practicing identifying things that make you feel good like a child’s smile, a sunset, waves crashing on the shore…the textures, colors…and what that elicits in your heart.
If it feels scary, share that, too! Your truth is the most important thing he needs to know from you. All your feelings are beautiful and are gateways to the love you desire.
All of these principles together with creating moments of feeling enriched, heart centered beingness you will reach his heart and emotionally magnetize him to you so play the long game of love, keep practicing and you will create the relationship of your dreams!